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A refreshing read : “Quiet” by Susan Cain

In this era of internet of things, we “google” for answers, “whatsapp” to be social and “youtube” to express. We have shorter attention span and less patience; and with more information, there are more things to share than more time to listen to others’ sharing.

Thousands of years of Chinese/Eastern teaching talks about developing important character traits such as humbleness, subtlety, persistence and altruism. Fast forward with western culture shaping the world, the character focus has shifted to personality focus.

This book “QuietQuiet : The Power of Introverts in a World That Can’t Stop Talking”, by Susan Cain, is a refreshing read. Susan quietly writes about the behavior, the thought process and world-changing contribution of that quieter half of the world population.  It gives explanation on how introverts and extroverts function; and offers insights to readers of any personalities.

“Quiet” talks about the rise of extroversion as a cultural (personality) ideal, with life examples from Dale Carnegie to the author’s personal experience in Tony Robbins’ events.  It attempts to answer questions like “Are personality a result of nature or nurture?”  It talks about different biology reaction, thought process and behavior between introverts and extroverts; follow with vivid stories of contrasting personality between Franklin and Eleanor Roosevelt; and the different behaviors leading to Wall Street Crash and the folks who thrive in the Crash. boldshy

There is a chapter on the soft power of “quiet” introvert, and a deeper dive into the cultural values outside of US, including perspective of scholarly students with Asian-heritage in US high schools and their challenges in fitting into college where speaking-up, social interaction and group thinking are “demanded”.

Just as extroverts make charismatic leaders and make many contributions, introverts are making great contributions to the society from Van Gogh and his paintings to Wozniak and the invention of personal computer.

The book finishes with case studies on how to love and work with/within your and others’ personalities.

If you are among those who are curious about different personalities (including your own); or simply to learn to work and love one of them, you would enjoy reading the research, the analysis and the stories of “Quiet”.  I am surprised this book has not made more noise, but maybe it is not a surprise when many prizes extrovert just a little bit more.ambivert

 

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A PATH APPEARS – change lives for the better

Like many,A path appears I contribute to some non-profit organizations, and have been a World Vision child sponsor for many years.  More recently, I realize the responsibility to go from easy act of giving to more thoughtful consideration to give where it creates impact I care about.

If you are interested in changing lives for the better including your own, you would love this book “A path appears” by Nicholas Kristof and Sheryl WuDunn.

In this world of unequal opportunities contributed no less by the lottery of birth, the book offers, the best I have seen, a path on how to help those who lose at the birth draw.

With Cure-Violence to combat inner-city conflicts in the United States by applying principle of epidemiology; or organization which brings in older Americans to tutor students in public school across the country, it gives a catalog of opportunities to support babies to teens, from combating inner-city challenges to transforming slums in Kenya.  The true stories are riveting and convincing how small acts of individual can make life-changing impacts to others.

I love the refreshingly bold section that talks about challenges in managing non-profit organizations and at times competition among them.  Recently, I read about peA path appears 2ople stop donating to a non-profit organization as they consider the CEO got a high pay (when it was pretty low compared to the business world). There is expectation that people associated with non-profit initiatives should be sacrificial.  Such undermines abilities to attract best talent and create pressure to cut corners in the administration of non-profit organizations.  Should we judge instead the impacts the organization make or not make?

The third and last section sums up to “help others help ourselves”.  It echoes a childhood learning that helping is the origin of happiness.  If altruism has a mixed record of success, it has an almost perfect record of helping ourselves.

If you just want to spare a minute on the topic, the last page lists six steps to take in the next six minutes.

Another on my reading list: “Half the Sky” from the same authors.

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Chinese New Year in the city

It has been three years since I last spent the Chinese New Year in Hong Kong.  How things are different in this span.

Everyone is three years older, from babies to nonagenarian, people change in different ways.  Babies grow and glow, give hope and energy; a nonagenarian grows old, loses its ability and mobility, then goes the body or minds whichever happens first.   It takes energy to seek out the positivity of getting old as it journeys to illness.  Old people give plenty ideas of how we want to plan ahead or glimpses of tens IMG_1902of years ahead.  It is a future time machine.  It is about love.  It is easy to love a bright future, it is something else to love the last mile of a journey.  It is humbling and same deal to most.  What motivates may just be the constant need to overcome new loss of ability to slow down the deterioration.   Life is circular and we end where we start – nothing.  Yet, if life is a circle, some draws a humongous one; some is more like a dot, a small number with negative radius.   The world is almost shaped by those few who journeys a lot in their lives. Take an example, the smart phones are not a result of public voting, yet it changes how billions are spending their time every day.  Internet and search are not the result of the work of the majority; it changes the lives of many.  Automation of repetitive tasks is not the choice of majority of workers; it is the effort of bright minds who believe human intelligence will better be consumed in higher order than repetitive and mundane activities, maybe many would not mind mundane jobs to make a possible living.  How the world evolves does not tie neatly with the advocacy of democracy in many political systems. No-one protest about technology, the smart phones, Internet, Wi-Fi nor the many apps, we endorse it most wholeheartedly.  Are people being selective in the pursuit of democracy?

Minority groups in Hong Kong are protesting for full democracy.  What feels like the top social issue is the ubiquitous disharmony, the political debate and a city-wide negativity.  Recent central occupation and the city riots on Chinese New Year Day are manifest Hong_Kong_Victoria_Harbour_Views_from_Victoria_Peak_IMG_5297 (1)of mostly disruptive behavior, however people justify them.  The city has its share of problems, and more shares of fortunes when compared to many other places. The way it is going creates a real possibility that this generation grows up to see things from great to good, and could be in the hands of a few folks, from good to bad.  There could be better outcome from brighter minds, and if not, life is circular so could the path of a city.

Still a beautiful city as I went through the HKU MTR station and took a hike up the Victoria Peak.

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So this is Christmas week

How ofteIMG_1772n do we have a work week made up of two work days and three days of company holiday?  It happened in this week of winter solstice, Christmas Eve, Christmas and Boxing Day.  The anticipation for the week started after Thanksgiving holiday.  And the week had its fair share of movies, feast and gifts.

Working a short week gives a unique working atmosphere when the office was half occupied.  People carried occasional social conversation but mostly focused at work – a telling sign of a pretty engaging workforce.  It was a good feeling to catch up at work or get the time to develop interesting ideas.   At the end of the day, there was still more to achieve than time could fit in.  Yet, there was the next day and the pile of work did not build up more.  I took my teenagers to work one day, and had lunch with them.    Teenagers could easily throw a few hours on a computer or other smart device, even though they are gaming or watching more.  It is still comforting that they fit right into the work setting.

A five-day break gave room to some long-forgotten house chores.  My oven has not been cleaned for a time that was too embarrassing to mention.  Except for the first year of its history, its “self-clean” button was hardly touched, I had no real good explanation other than users often forgot about features when not used often.  Coincidentally, a magazine gave a recipe for a proven oven cleaning paste.  When there is a way, there is a plan.  I mixed up the magi
c cleaning paste, and rubbed it all over the oven the night before; next morning I woke up with the determination to start the rub and scrub. If the cleaning time is in proportion to the size of the appliance, the job would have been done in a few minutes.  After an hour, I was just able to get it to a used condition rather than the “like new” or “slightly used” condition.  It was more tiring than an hour of Yoga; more taxing than an hour of core training; and took more persistence than the slow jogging.  After over two hours, my standard of a clean oven found a decent compromise with my physical condition.   My unwavering respect for full-time housewife was once again refreshed with enough curiosity to look up the run-rate for professional cleaning.

If cleaning is some hard work, making bed sounds so much easier.  Yet doing it fast and neat takes some skills too.   It may not be easy to meet the expectation for a hotel cleaning job.  Remember that situation when a hotel cleaning lady knocked on the door of your hotel room, and you had to spare some minutes in the lobby, the gym or a café for them to prepare the room.  In their standard, it took twenty minutes or so to clean a
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Are you convinced that you have the skill sets to take up the jobs that are paid more or less than your current position?  There is no better or worse skill, just different pay and often I hope the pay gap is not as broad as it is, for some jobs.

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Getting better

Current top tennis players, at age 35 or less, say very similar things – they want to get better and practice make them better.   It does not matter the ranking, these top guys have such motivation to simply get better, and the belief that hard work will play off.   I love that attitude.

Do you carry the same attitude, regardless of the ranking?  Do you keep inventory of areas that you want to improve and block time to horn skills?  Do you have the right “rivalry” or friends to motivate or push you?

This past week, I took a one-day course on “presenting da4-books-stackedta and information”, taught by Mr. Edward Tufte.  Mr. Tufte is a professor emeritus of political science, statistics, and computer science at Yale University.  He is a pioneer in data visualization.  With hundreds of “adult students” in attendance, he brought his unique perspective on data and gave us highlights of the rich content of his four books on data visualization.  It was back to classroom lecture and had reading material that took more of the brain bandwidth and really needed focus.   Over the years, we build the habit of the right “messaging” in our presentation with data filtering; we worry about complexity to our audience, and cherry pick “easy” and relevant information to our target audience; our challenge becomes less of a mental and content but more of a political and presentation.  It is a day of reminder that rich content is superior to beautiful slides; a reminder to not distort data; and the expectation that communication could be clear, precise and efficient at the same time.

At age 73, Mr. Tufte is energetic, passionate to teach and “fearless” to disagree (with PowerPoint or with IT).

Over the hill at age 40, qualify for AARP (American Association of Retired Persons) membership at 50, become a senior citizen with senior discounts at 60 (sexagenarian), then a septuagenarian, an octogenarian to hit the average life span. There are almost always that unknown number of years between now and the end.

What can we make the most of these in-between years, to best the chance of being so admirable at age 73?

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The victory of online shopping

I recently re-watch the movie “I, Robot” and enjoy that twist about robots revolting against human beings to best protect us.  Since the invention of computers, we are heading towards the realization of far-fetched sci-fi scenes.

Technology makes mi robotany things convenient, efficient and improves the well-beings of many lives; and it is winning the race with non-technology alternatives.  Yet, it is hard to wholeheartedly embrace a complete victory of technology.

Take on-line shopping as an example, during the black Friday weekend this year, people buy more on-line than from the retail store; this feels like retail stores will soon face challenges to survive.   Online shopping saves valuable time and effort; it is a comfortable experience; and the customer services are amazing – if the product misses a part, it will send you the whole product again and quick.  It probably contributes to less pollution as the computer power to support some online activities is lbook storesikely way lower than the gasoline consumed in getting to shopping malls.   It is as great a thing as free Wi-Fi.

If online shopping wipes out local retail stores, I will miss the experience of doing shopping with friends, the joy of agreeing and disagreeing with each other on the items at display.   I will miss the ambience of a people-filled shopping mall.

Online shopping makes buying things such an efficient process.  When I shop for a gift, I have the receiver in mind.   The more efficient it becomes, the less time that receiver is on the mind before moving on to buy for another person.   Is it better to save much time, just to spend more time on the internet rather than more human interaction? GiftsofBooks

A few years ago, I went to book stores to discover new books. Instead of buying books, I registered the book titles and went online to buy them.   Recently, I start an effort to buy some books from the retail stores with the worry that it could soon become extremely difficult to find any retail book stores.

As online stores are up and running twenty four hours every day, it also takes away the need to plan a shopping trip.  And whatever we are looking for, it can be discovered in a few clicks.  I miss the deeper sense of demand and the delayed gratification on what we are looking for.

Maybe soon, I will find something online, and make a trip to the shopping mall to buy the items.

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The 100 + 1 Blog

Doing anythiblogging-101-2-150x150ng a hundred times will give a deeper understanding than the first attempt.  After writing 100 blogs, I have learned or “relearned” a few things.

Writing improves communication.  Writing pushes us to discover the lost words — if the right word does not come in conversation, we skip over them, but not when we want to write well.  The pause in writing hits me often and I face this supersize room of improvement to better articulate what is in this world and what is inside our head.  Putting the words down brings clarity of thought (well sometimes).  It is the processing as we write something down, that helps to reflect and brings a level of clarity.  It is a revealing experience.

It needs extra effort to generate followers.  The readers and the writers all have their story and their lives.  Those, who have tons of followers, are never a pure luck.   I am writing-multiplesourcesnot there, nor do I want to be there. They may just make it look easy.

Appreciation comes with understanding.   Writing daily to make a living is a different game from writing at leisure.  There are just days that the inspiration is on vacation and the output becomes gibberish.  I admire those successful and productive writers, not an easy profession, even more challenging under timeline or financial pressure.  If you ever find it hard to respect a profession, try to take that up for some time.  If there ever are more people putting themselves in others’ shoes, the world will be different.

A relaxed min100postsdset brings more inspiration.  Three years have gone by between the 1st and the 100th.  There are changes every day, let alone three years – mindset, parents, children, friends, career, workload and health.   When we are relaxed and happy, the same thing looks more interesting and the world looks wonderful; no wonder the tennis players p
erform better when they are happy outside of the courts.   When our mind is occupied with unwanted difficulties, our tank of inspiration gets empty quick.  The publishing frequency reflects the state of minds between blogs.

When there is a choice, we only do activities that interest us.  To find that out, check out those time demands that you choose to meet, or keep coming back to.  If there is nothing coming up, that will be a sad discovery and it is time to start a (re) discovery journey.

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The Sixth Extinction by Elizabeth Kolbert

On tsixth extinctionhe summer reading list of President Obama, it raises enough curiosity to pick up this book on a foreign topic – the history of species evolution and extinction.

The author Elizabeth Kolbert draws her audience in this unusual topic and does a fantastic job in reporting about species evolution and extinction in this planet.  Elizabeth not only makes the topic interesting, it makes it relevant why we care about species diversity, about ocean acidification and about mega fauna extinction. In her journey, she visited different places that had made a mark in the species evolution or extinction.  Everywhere she goes – she reports the past, the present, the story and its adventures through first hand conversations and hands-on experience.

The book starts with the extinction of a few frog species; and in thirteen chapters, each tramammothcks a species that is emblematic – the American mastodian, the great auk, an ammonite talks about extinct species; the increasingly fragmented Amazon rainforest, the ocean acidification and the endangered corals at Great Barrier Reef talk about the present landscape; plus many more around mammals and human.     If any of these is new to you, the author will carry you to these new territories.

In the chapter oNeanderthaln theory of mega fauna extinction, it is mind boggling on how human arrival may correlate the closest the species extinction when human predators unintentionally disrupts their long reproductive cycle; and the species reduction triggers forest overgrowth, then climate change.  And how modern human species drive to extinction o
f its cousin such as Neanderthal; the uniqueness of human bring madness, creativity and at the same time its destructive power which drives species extinction and one day could be our own.

The book is educational and entertaining; it tells an unnatural history of species evolution and the evolving theory about it.  I love reading about the stories, and learn a lot more than expected.  It gives a deeper appreciation of what is going on in the planet; and why we want to sustain the species diversity.

If the above topics do not interest you, wait till you start reading the book.

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‘I Am Malala’ by Malala Yousafzai – her fight for education

It is not everyday scene to see an 18-year old teenager getting a standing ovation in a late night show.  She is the youngest-ever Nobel peace prize laureate.

‘I i am malalaam Malala” covers her fifteen years of life in Pakistan, her families, her childhood, her schools and the global terrorism before she was almost shot to death.

Her father is not a traditional man.  He fell in love with his future wife and got married; in a culture which did not celebrate the arrival of a girl, he gave her whole heart to his daughter Malala when she was born.   Her father is a man with a dream to educate children. His dream led the family to Mingora, Swat Valley, to build schools.  There were years of hardship around building schools in Pakistan, not to mention that the schools were for both boys and girls.   Yet, through the eyes of Malala, there is the positivity and the belief in overcoming obstacles.

As her family “financial” situation improved and the school was established, the political situation in Pakistan deteriorated as Taliban started to penetrate to the Swat valley. It started with propaganda over radio which influenced minds and provided a platform to attack non-conformist.  As the influences increased, it spread terror through physical attack and increasingly powerful militants.  The commitment and competence of Pakistan regime to protect the territory from falling to Taliban were both questionable; for years, Malala’s family has been living through wars between the Taliban and the Pakistan military; and schools were being bombed often.   As the town went from bad to worse, her family became internally displaced, like refugees.

Through the turmoil, Malala lives through her childhood, with tons of family love, friends, and her fair share of teenager worries.   Like many children, she loves learning, she is concerned about grades, she loves to be the top student in her class; she has friends, and occasional arguments with friends; she is a typical elder sister with sibling rivalries.   She has concern about her height and wish diligence could get herself an inch taller.

What is inspirational is her love of learning and her belief of education against terrorism.  Malala has pursued her education at risk of her personal safety; i am malala quoteshe relentlessly advocates for education through her blog, her speech and her bravery.  When her family became internally displaced, GiftsofBooksthe thing she missed the most was her books.  When she recovered in the hospital, she wanted her books, and she missed the school examinations.  Malala’s love of learning and school is a lesson for all the kids in many countries, where education is taken for granted.

This is a story of a girl, a family and a country through the eyes of Malala, with unusual clarity of thought, passion and strength; yet without the sophistication of premature adulthood.

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Three Years After

Three years ago, I took an early retirement.  At that time, one kid was in high school, and the other was in middle school. Three years later, I am back to work, one kid is in college and the other is in high school.

If someone toldream-quote - cs lewisd me ahead what has happened since, I probably would have no idea.  It is not that the past three years have been dramatic; just that the daily drudgery sometimes limit our imagination.

Such is that there is some satisfaction in looking back the past 3 years for experiencing different things – “retirement”; blogging, jogging 5k; meeting new friends; volunteering; working as a contractor; working in health care; working in high tech; and sending kid to college.

Inertia resists changes of course – experiencing new things is actually not always comfortable; and at times, it is uncomfortable.  Changes are our bets. On the good side, it can motivate us to stay fit both physically and mentally; a good rhythm in exercising does away my allergy for the last two years.  And I am lucky to join a company with so many smart people as well as people with passion.

I am raised in a culture that “helping others is the foundation of happiness”.  Serving on a non-profit school is both a learning experience as well as rewarding with the chance of making an impact.  Seldom do people say “volunteejourneyring is not rewarding”, yet, volunteer rate was reported to be 25.3% in US in 2013.  It is a mystery to me.

For a year or two, my daughter has pretty much only one requirement for college, other than she wants to get into a good college – she wants to go out-of-state and experiences something new.  This fall, she gave up her in-state college admission and went somewhere that took more than 5 hours of direct flight.   I wish that she will be equally successful in all of her future dreams.  For parents, seeing the kid off to college is a major milestone – our life with kid first start off as a single entity, then two entities with lots of overlap, the overlap becomes intersection and then one day, we suddenly realize our kid and us has become two separate entities, with just occasional intersection.

So that is it.  The good thing is there are still so many things around waiting to be discovered.

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