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World Trade Center ground zero is a place to visit in New York.

To revisit the 911 tragedy in perspective is almost harder. When it happened, the unthinkable happened, and the breaking news on TV was received with the overwhelming sentiment of disbelief. Ten years later, we knew how the attack was unfolded, we knew who did it; we knew how close, if not already, we were at war; we knew the casualty, and the families who lost someone forever.

When I was there last week, the re-construction was still in progress yet very impressive. The two pools were such a symbolic representation – the rim was inscribed with the names of the dead; with water flowing down the tall pool walls, yet the water disappears into a deep hole in the middle. What a visual way to demonstrate the void left behind the 911 tragedy!

And the sole tree that survived, being nurtured back to life, and moved back to the site.  The chronological recording of the day, on the wall of the gift shop, is touching and informative.   There is more to complete for the ground zero site, including a museum and the completion of two skyscrapers.

In this world-famous financial center and materialistic city of unparallel charm, may the ground zero be the constant reminder of what money cannot cure.

In life, there are decision making moments.

Do we listen to our heart or to our mind?

I have a situation that my heart and mind do not come together on a decision I need to make. As owner of both, it is a conflict to manage.

Heart is an interesting piece of art – if she feels neglected, she would be quiet and dumb; it becomes hard to find what she wants; yet, if I follow her often, she is controlling.

Mind is more rational and considers many factors in decision making.

In recent consideration about a job opportunity, my mind and heart do not agree.  My heart wants a free-spirited life with less stress and responsibilities.  My mind takes it as means of living, learning, taking risk, maybe practicing failure and making contribution.

Do we follow the heart or mind to live a happier life?

For those who live in the present, all the time and for many years at different stages of life, maybe it is happier and more fulfilling to go with the heart. There are tons of self-helping books about following our passion and our heart.

For most mortals, we live in the present; we also think about the future; and at times, we look back in the past. And we would like to have a decent retirement at a senior age.

To my heart, I am sorry this time I cannot follow you and I have not chosen the road less travelled.  I choose a rational decision for the present, and for the future.

To my heart and my mind, please keep your lively spirit for many more decisions to come.

A side effect of back to work –  less free time and inspiration is harder to catch.   A job grants $ and challenges;  yet takes away time and relaxation.

We all lose and gain something without realizing it.

In the teens, I had some tunes in my head almost all the time, and was excited about some new songs, new lyrics.   Those were the days without MP3, and with green monitor for the bulky computer.  Those were the days we listened to the radio and at times, waited for the favorite songs to play out.  And then remember the lyrics as quickly as one could.  Little did I know that was one of the best memory training; little did I know the influence of lyrics on my values.

Through the years, the music gradually disappears from my life.   It is not something that happens all out of sudden, but it is more like the time is being taken up by events, activities, computers, new endeavors.  No new music, lyrics or tunes for a while – well, there is still some – the piano pieces my kids practice daily.    I spend way more time on computer that do not need emotional engagement and concentration.

Is it something to mourn over?  I don’t know.  More a sentiment that I have moved on, and along the way, the music has been left behind.   Would I pick it back up again?  Very likely?

I was in Hong Kong during Chinese New year, when the Zodiac switch from year of Dragon to the year of Snake.

This trip renews appreciation of the tradition.  It is heart-warming that the tradition remains strong in the celebration of Chinese New Year.  Yet, it is such a contrast to its lack of,  in the Bay Area.

Public holiday 

As the New Year falls on Sunday, it gives 3 days of public holidays in Hong Kong and work resumes on the 5th day of the New Year.  Public holiday makes one of the biggest differences in the upkeep of any traditions.  It allows people the enjoyment of not only the holidays, but also the pleasure to look forward to the holidays.

Feast, Feast and More Feasts

Eating is an important element in celebrations!  Chinese New year can be seen as a series of days looking awfully similar, and is almost comforting to see the pattern.  For three days from New Year eve, the New year day to the second day, the day typically includes gatherings in the morning, visits each other or to close relatives, big family lunch, some break in the day, then a family dinner.  With the subtle society change towards reduced home cooking, most restaurants have been booked days if not weeks ahead of time, creating such an atmosphere of prosperity.  A set dinner for 10 – 12 in a modest restaurant would charge HKD 3000+ plus; more towards HKD 4000 if not more, that is about USD 500+.  It typically would have the tender roasted pig, a whole fish, a whole chicken, vegetables, luxurious soup such as Shark Fin or so, seafood, fried rice, noodles, desert.  Counting the number of family meals, not a cheap festival.

The season of giving – red envelope

It is reported some kids accumulate fortune from red envelopes over the years. my estimate for a middle-class family, each kid could earn about HKD 3000 or so each year, about USD 400 or so.  I stand to be corrected for more accurate averages.  Keeping to the tradition is the super polite gesture when people are giving out red envelopes; and then shuffling extra ones to thank others.  It is almost an endless giving – first parents give red envelopes to their children; family A would give red envelope to family B’s unmarried children; family B would do the reverse;  then family A gives red envelopes to the very elderly of family B; family B of course returns; family A gives red envelopes to family B for the gifts they have bought; so you can expect what family B would do.  Such a display of “gift giving etiquettes”  and at times it would take a while to settle down the giving and receiving parts.  It tells a lot about the tradition and culture.   If family A and B choose to go out dinner together, it would be another etiquette display on who could have the honor to pay the bill !   Extra red envelopes to the waiter, waitress, janitor in restaurants; or to the security, janitor and other in the apartment buildings; or whoever.

When do we see folks freely give out money to strangers as a tradition in anywhere, any time?  Not to mention that everyone is greeting everyone with nice words like “You would get rich, you would be healthy, you would be prosperous for the whole year”

It is pretty special.

The Market, the Parade, Firework and the TV shows for the public 

Entrepreneurs bid for booths in open markets, that open just during the few days before the Chinese new year, to sell stuff; it surprised me often on what makes the best-selling products, typically not the type of products that one would keep  or look again outside of the season, like shaped balloons, or good fortune tiny wind-mills.

New year day, has the evening “chariots-Parade” attracting about 180,000 people; Next day, the fire work display attracts about 300,000 live viewers; these are not big number in the densely populated city of Hong Kong though.   The evening TV channels are typically monopolized with variety shows of music, fortune-telling and funny performances.  The fortune tellers would talk about the fortune trends for folks with different zodiac and different years of birth.

Because of family dinners, the early bedders tend to miss out a few events.

Third day of the New year

Tradition indicates that it would be easy to get into arguments on the 3rd day.

Such a smart tradition to give people a break (to rest)!

So is my flight back to the Bay Area

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