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December: Family Time

Holiday season sends us the gift of family and friends getting together.    These gatherings create happy, busy and memorable moments that wrap up a very dynamic year.

December 2018

Traveling has become so common these days.  In the 2nd week of December, our family of four spanned across four places, three time zones and two big countries.   My husband and I had joy in visiting our siblings in Hong Kong. Siblings are gifts of our parents, and happy times with them are our gratitude to our parents.  We also spent some time in Shenzhen. We literally walked from Hong Kong to Shenzhen, but the differences are apparent. At Shenzhen, we were amazed at the ubiquitous adoption of technology and presence of delivery folks everywhere.   In the third week of December, our family of four is back to one place, one time zone and one country, as the children came home from college for three weeks.

How would you like to spend family time together?  Regardless, memory is most often made when we try something new and maybe even silly.  Such as trying new restaurant, waiting in line for over an hour to get a a take-out burger meal, or that my daughter patiently taking out my white hair one at a time.  I enjoy doing normal healthy things together such as hiking, reading, going to gym, going to bookstores.

We had meals together, drank some red wine together, and enjoyed small chat around the dinner tables.  The children had their own space too, often they spent time in their rooms, with their electronic gadgets, and they spent most of the mornings sleeping.   For many years, I have tried, in vain, to get the family to play board games together; but it is just hard to counter the abundance of individualized entertainment.  Call it YouTube or NetFlix effect, sometimes, it is not easy to watch the same family movie together on the same TV.   And call it Internet influence, their world has expanded beyond the physical world and the world of books.  I felt like Don Quixote fighting the windmills in my attempt to reduce the influence of the Internet, YouTube, NetFlix and the like.   At the same time, these technology has powered the young ones to be smarter, learn faster, work more productively, and have a more global world view.  I am still surprised on the progress made in the last few decades, and grateful that the platform is there for the young ones to do even more magical stuff in the upcoming few decades.

Taste of Life by Ms. Lisa Fong
方太的滋味人生

方太的滋味人生This is a book filled with words of wisdom from Ms.Fong (方太) and it inspires.  Everyone in Hong Kong knows 方太. She has been appearing on TV shows to teach cooking in the seventies or eighties.  She became an icon and has been the first generation of housewives sharing recipes and cooking tips with millions of other housewives.   

方太 is now in her eighties, and is a happy old woman who continues to learn and grow.  Her writings reflect so much energy, and so much love for her life, her family and friends.   If you are looking for recipes, you would not be disappointed, but more so, I enjoyed what she wrote about important ones in her life – her parents, her children, her grandchild , her maids, her co-workers. I truly admired 方太 and her positive frame of mind towards life.   I love how she thinks of life as the ticket to a theme park, and that since you are there, it is far better to enjoy the journey. How positive! And that she thinks of death as the gradual loss of our fitness and gradual relaxation towards unconsciousness. How wise!

Her success across multiple generations is her own making and no coincidence.   

 

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November: Thanks-and-Giving

This month, the sky has been grey in California and the air quality has been bad to the point that some days schools were closed and we were advised to work from home.  Some study claims that the air quality, as a result of Camp Fire, is equivalent to smoking 11 cigarettes.  If it is this bad hundreds of miles away from the fire, it is hard not to feel for those families who got displaced.  Rain comes later in the month, and brings some relief.

In the spirit of Thanksgiving, I volunteered in the CityTeam activities to help families to pick up bags of groceries, Turkey or Chickens for the upcoming days.   After three hours of lifting bags after bags, my arms and shoulder were sore, at the same time, it was rewarding to think about thousands of families having the ingredients for big meals over the holiday season.  My husband spared a day to learn how to fix bikes and help to fix bikes. Learning a skill takes effort, after a day, he fixed half of a bike. This Thanksgiving is special as my son is coming home for the holiday from his freshman year in college.

I read another book on running this month.  Many past years I had that new year wish to be able to run a mile, and failed.   A few of my acquaintances amazed me when they completed marathon run. I am still not much of a runner, I just keep trying and at one point in time, the body starts to respond better.  I can manage 2 to 3 miles of slow jogging on the treadmill two three times a week; and 5K is something I feel comfortable with. There were a few “breakthrough” moments. A few years ago, I was in a company which assigned  me a “health coach”, and the health coach got me install “C25K’ (Couch to 5K”) app on my phone, that was like giving me a tool or training plan, with a personal coach encouraging you along the way. With some success, I talked my family to do a 5K together on a New Year Day,  Needless to say, I was the one who needed to prepare for it months before; and was the slowest to complete the run, yet it was such a great memory. I could not pinpoint a specific moment when I started to feel very refreshed after each jog. Jogging becomes my path of a good cardiovascular exercise and a good day ahead.   I am still not much of a runner, but I am further along than before.

Many Lives, Many Masters, 20th anniversary edition
By Brian L. Weiss

Many Lives Many MastersThis book was recommended by a panelist in a career conference that I recently attended.   The panelist looks super contented as a person, and seems to know exactly what her purpose of life is.  Who would not admire having a North Star in a life journey?

This book is an account of  the patient-psychiatrist interactions in which the patient, in her hypnotised state, reminisce her many lives over the last thousands of years, and different lessons from masters as she transitions from death to another life.  Among the unbelievables, the patient was also able to recognize people in her current lives in her past lives. It is a book about reincarnation and a book on equal possibility in the pursuit of the final destiny.

We  are often skeptical and fearful towards things that do not comply with the framework of a rational mind.   Cited as the true story of a prominent psychiatrist, it still reads like a novel.

The book gives a lot to think about – if death does not do people apart, and is not the end, but a transition, what would we do differently in how we approach our daily life?

 

Run Forever: Your Complete Guide to Healthy Lifetime Running
By Amby Burfoot

Run foreverMy third book on running, after “What I talk about when I talk about running”  and “Born to Run”. Unlike the other two, this one is more a “how to” book from a Boston Marathon Champion.

It contains many practical tips for all level of runners, helping people to get started, good tips on diet, and work itself towards the more advanced training, and the adjustment required for our running as we age.    It is a complete guide to healthy lifetime running for all ages.

It is an enjoyable and good read for everyone whether he or she is a runner or not.   It is not just about running, but about how to live a good life both mentally and physically for as many years as possible.   

 

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